2009 is shaping up to be a year in which we will need all of our conflict solving skills. As the economy continues along a sluggish path, everyone will be affected whether it be personal relationships, work or just in the everyday pleasures we take for granted.

With all this build up of pressure, tempers can become frayed. Little things which we could ignore suddenly seem in our face, something that needs to be dealt with.

2009 will really be a time to try and manage your emotions. Here are some strategies;

Why am I feeling this? (anger/personal attack/hurt/frightened)
Is it possible for me right now to separate the problem from the person?

What do I want to change?
What can I do in order to assist in the change?

What do I need in order to let go of this feeling and prevent recurrence of the same feeling I am experiencing now?
(Are all parties treating each other with equal respect? Can I be assertive and name negative behaviour?)

Whose problem is this? Is it a spoken or unspoken "message" I am hearing?
(Are we both able to look at the differences of emotions vs the issues?)

Do I have the time, authority and/or energy to change the situation?
(Am I able to encourage positives rather than bringing up past negative issues?)

Can I improve the relationship and increase communication?
(Am I working towards an acceptable/acceptable outcome?)



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